What are Toddler Tantrums? 

Toddler tantrums are a common challenge that parents face. Tantrums can be frustrating for both parents and children, but they are a natural part of a toddler’s development. During this stage, children are learning to regulate their emotions, and it can take time for them to develop the necessary skills to do so. In this blog post, we will discuss what causes toddler tantrums and how emotion coaching can help parents and children navigate through them.

What Causes Toddler Tantrums?

Toddlers have limited language and communication skills, which can lead to frustration when they are unable to express themselves effectively. This frustration can manifest itself in the form of a tantrum. Toddlers are also developing a sense of autonomy and independence, which can lead to power struggles with their caregivers. They may become upset when they are not allowed to do something or when they are told no.

Additionally, toddlers are still learning to regulate their emotions, they are very emotionally immature. They may become overwhelmed by their feelings and be unable to control their reactions. They may also be tired or hungry, which can make them more prone to tantrums.

How Can Emotion Coaching Help?

Emotion coaching is a parenting strategy that involves helping children identify and regulate their emotions. By doing so, parents can help their children develop the skills they need to manage their feelings effectively. Here are some tips for using emotion coaching to help toddlers during tantrums:

  1. Validate Their Feelings: When your child is having a tantrum, it’s essential to acknowledge their feelings. You can say things like, “I see that you’re feeling upset” or “It’s okay to be frustrated.” By acknowledging their emotions, you are helping them feel heard and understood.
  2. Stay Calm: It’s essential to remain calm during a tantrum. If you become upset or agitated, it can escalate the situation. Take a deep breath and try to remain patient.
  3. Use Empathy: Empathy is the ability to understand and share another person’s feelings. Try to put yourself in your child’s shoes and imagine how they are feeling. You can say things like, “I know it’s hard when you can’t have what you want” or “It’s frustrating when things don’t go your way.”
  4. Problem-Solve Together: Once your child has calmed down, you can work together to find a solution to the problem. Ask your child what they would like to happen and see if you can find a compromise that works for both of you.
  5. Teach Coping Skills: It’s essential to teach your child coping skills that they can use when they are feeling overwhelmed. You can teach them deep breathing exercises or give them a calming activity to do, like colouring, listening to music or meditating.
  6. Be Consistent: Consistency is key when it comes to discipline. If your child knows what to expect, they are less likely to become upset. Set clear boundaries and consequences for behaviour, and be consistent in enforcing them.

In Conclusion

Toddler tantrums can be challenging, but they are a natural part of a child’s development. By using emotion coaching, parents can help their children regulate their emotions and develop the skills they need to manage their feelings effectively. Remember to stay calm, validate your child’s feelings, and problem-solve together. With patience and consistency, you can help your child navigate through this challenging stage of development.

We are currently offering a group coaching programme which enables parents to gain a deeper understanding of toddler development, toddler emotions and emotion coaching. We also have our Understanding Toddler Emotions parenting guide which 0ffer’s a step by step guide for understanding toddlers better. Please get in touch if you have any questions about toddler tantrums and how to manage to improve your relationship.